Episode 139 features my wife, Stefanie Stershic.
During this episode we continue our conversation, starting from her cross country journey to move in with me, continuing with our years living together, and culminating in our nuptials.
Mentioned and Helpful Links from This Episode
Listen to Meet the Stershic Part I: Podcast Fun.
Listen to 50 Questions with Stefanie
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From Brain to Keyboard on Twitch
Music created and provided by Henno Heitur of Monkey Tongue Productions.
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Agent Palmer
Previously on Agent palmer.com. The Thurber Carnival is short and sweet. It’s not Murphy’s law. Richard Robinson proves you’re just toast. And remember, my guest episode on that Nerd Thing podcast has dropped since last episode. This is The Palmer Files episode 139, featuring the continuation of the conversation. My wife, Stefanie and I had starting from her cross-country journey to move in with me, continuing with our years, living together and culminating in our nuptials.
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Agent Palmer
Are you ready? Let’s get to the ideas.
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Agent Palmer
Hello and welcome to.
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Agent Palmer
The Palmer Files. I’m your host, Jason Stershic, also known as Agent Palmer. And on this 139th episode is my wife, Stefanie Stershic, who’s back to continue the conversation of our story from digital dating to white wedding. If you missed the last episode or just need a refresher, the story started with us. Meeting on Twitter through a podcast led to late night phone calls and eventually a first date, and then she decided to move in.
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Agent Palmer
That’s where this episode takes off. During this episode, we’ll also cover how I unintentionally turned Steph into a sports person after she moved in, adding another person to the house and a cat. One of us losing a job a global pandemic. Pathfinder podcasting, sharing shows and movies. Magic the Gathering, Minecraft traveling, Twitch streaming, and the build up of when are you going to get married?
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Agent Palmer
Questions. Also wedding decisions and planning the wedding itself and well, as always, all of that and more is coming your way shortly. But first, remember that if you want to discuss the episode as you listen or afterwards, you can find all related ways to contact my lovely wife Stefanie and myself in the show notes. Don’t forget, you can see all of my writings and rantings on Agent palmer.com.
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Agent Palmer
And of course, email can be sent to the Palmer Files at gmail.com. So without further ado, let’s figure out how all this happened.
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Agent Palmer
So you drive across the country.
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Stefanie Stershic
It takes me three days.
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Agent Palmer
And I’m keeping track of your journey. I’m, And you just met a few people on the way. Yeah. It wasn’t, you know, you met some friends.
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Stefanie Stershic
Yeah, I basically, I, I arranged it so that I could stop at least a day or so in, in Illinois because, not only was and she’s still my best friend to this day, con, was still living in Illinois at the time. She was originally from Chicago. That’s where I had gone. Visitor. That’s where I knew she lived.
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Stefanie Stershic
But at the time she was living in Champaign with her. I think they were already married by then with her husband. Cavender. And I was like, okay, I can save myself a hotel if I plan my trip and go up into Illinois that way, because it was going to kind of be along the way anyway. Stay with them a night, hang out, say hello, and then drive on the next day.
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Agent Palmer
And you got to see our mutual friend Sara.
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Stefanie Stershic
Well, and that was the other thing was, I could because she was also, she wasn’t that close to champagne, but she was close enough that it was going to be on my way. I could kind of go that way and then stop in Champaign for the final, stop and then kind of deal deal with that. So I had basically I had stopped, I think, in, New Mexico was my first stop, got a hotel, and then basically the next day drove from New Mexico all the way to, Sarah had dinner with Sarah.
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Stefanie Stershic
Yeah. Hung out for a bit. Chatted. Yeah. Had a lovely time left. Sarah.
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Agent Palmer
Went to champagne.
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Stefanie Stershic
Went to champagne. Got there about probably ten, 11:00 at night. And stayed the night. Wow. So this had been planned. I was going to stay at Connie’s house shortly before my trip. She forgot that she was going to be away right at that time, but luckily they still had a roommate living with them at the time, who was another of Kahn’s friends, Van.
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Stefanie Stershic
And she’s like, don’t worry, you can still stop. You can stay with van. Yeah. And and you guys can hang out, cause I didn’t, I know I knew her as well. I had hung out with her and con before they had both come and visited me in Arizona. And so I was like, yeah, that’s that’s fine. I can hang out with van.
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Stefanie Stershic
It’s not a big deal. Thank you. Because it would save me not having to pay for another hotel.
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Agent Palmer
And then you got up and.
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Stefanie Stershic
Yeah, basically, you know what? What? And, no, it wasn’t New Mexico where I stopped, I lied. That was when I drove with my mom. That was a completely different thing. No, I had driven from Arizona all the way to, I think, Oklahoma City. Okay. Because, yeah, that wouldn’t have made sense because I drove about.
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Agent Palmer
In four hours.
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Stefanie Stershic
Yeah. No, I drove at least like 11 hours that first day because I had timed it to basically be like 11 to 12 hours a day. Yeah. In the car. So yeah. No, no, no, I was I was wrong, I was confusing trips because I yeah, I.
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Agent Palmer
Will get to that.
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Stefanie Stershic
I did this a couple shots. I traveled across the country a couple times. But that was Oklahoma, Oklahoma City to Illinois. Yeah. And then the next day, I woke up, hopped in the car, drove all the way from Illinois, another 12 hours straight to Pennsylvania.
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Agent Palmer
Yes.
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Stefanie Stershic
Arrived here again kind of late at night. Got some of the stuff out of the car, but then just kind of crashed. I’d had, I think food along the way got here and was like, I need to go to sleep. I was, I was done.
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Agent Palmer
I don’t I genuinely, other than being excited, do not remember anything about like you finally being here I, I and I mean that like I wish I could remember more. All I know is that you arrived on, like a Saturday night or Friday night. You were was at a certain point, because I remember you didn’t take off nearly as much time as I wanted you to because you basically.
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Stefanie Stershic
I think I arrived one Friday, it was back to work on a Monday, maybe two.
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Agent Palmer
Tuesday. Tuesday. I was Tuesday, but Tuesday you were like, yeah, I’m back to work. And it was like, oh, I gotta set you up. And I think during the weekend or maybe Monday or two during that next week is when your stuff arrived.
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Stefanie Stershic
Yeah.
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Agent Palmer
And so and, and unpacking was fine. I have a basement. Like, we basically we just everything in the basement and unpacked it over the course of.
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Stefanie Stershic
Yeah.
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Agent Palmer
Time. And so, that is October, and it’s only important because in order to look, when we go anywhere I drive, that’s part of that anxiety, part of it’s just I, I.
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Stefanie Stershic
You like driving.
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Agent Palmer
I like driving, yeah. And I only bring that up because I was like, you’re going to have to drive around here on your own. But for the first little bit, like, I’ll take you grocery shopping so you can see, like where we.
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Stefanie Stershic
Yeah, I can start getting my bearings. Yeah.
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Agent Palmer
In October, the leaves are changing. Yeah. And the first time. Look, my car and your car, both of our cars at the time have sunroofs, moonroof, whatever.
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Stefanie Stershic
Yeah.
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Agent Palmer
And you are taking picture. You’re like, slow down, slow down. I want to take a picture of this tree.
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Stefanie Stershic
Yeah. We’re driving down the street and the leaves are changing. And I got my phone out, and I’m just snapping pictures left and right as we’re driving down the fall. It had been a long time. It had been a long time. The leaves are turning such pretty colors like it was. It was the the brightest yellows, the brightest oranges, the brightest reds I had ever seen.
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Stefanie Stershic
And it was just. Yeah, it was it was a little overwhelming at first. I was like, this is so pretty. Oh, my God, this is my life now.
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Agent Palmer
Now there’s something else that happens in fall. Yeah. Especially in October.
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Stefanie Stershic
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Agent Palmer
We’re married now so you can’t go anywhere. But are were you had I explained like just how much of a sports person I was did I cover. I know we talked about a little.
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Stefanie Stershic
Bit about it. I knew you liked.
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Agent Palmer
Sports and a World Cup had happened during that, that we had talked through it because you were into soccer.
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Stefanie Stershic
But I don’t think I knew exactly to the extent.
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Agent Palmer
Yeah. Because I think.
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Stefanie Stershic
It was that you were into like college football and college basketball and those types of things. I knew you weren’t that into NFL. I knew you were a baseball guy, because I had already kind of sent you gifts that were Orioles related. Yeah. So we.
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Agent Palmer
Knew you were I, because it’s the next weekend after you move in. And we were talking about this recently or two weekends, or maybe it’s the next year. But at some point I go to a game with my father, and you go off with my mother shopping. Yeah, but that first one is very much, like, I get up on Saturday morning and I’m like, I watch game day, and then I watch college football all day, all day.
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Agent Palmer
And I don’t know that I had prepared you for that. At the NFL, I could take your leave on Sundays.
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Stefanie Stershic
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Agent Palmer
So that happens in the fall.
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Stefanie Stershic
Yeah.
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Agent Palmer
By the way, through what can only be described as your most awkward holiday season. Your first one with me, where I’m a Jew who doesn’t really care that much about Hanukkah. You thought it was a bigger deal?
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Stefanie Stershic
I did think I was lied to by by media and television and movie.
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Agent Palmer
Not only did we compromise on decorations because it’s not something I do just in general. Yeah, but also because of the college football thing. You got your first taste of bowl season, which starts in mid-December and goes through the beginning of January. It was like, hey, can we watch like a holiday movies? I’d love to, but there’s this there’s this bowl game on, on and there’s.
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Stefanie Stershic
This thing, there’s this college.
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Agent Palmer
Football game on, and so.
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Stefanie Stershic
Can you watch it on a different.
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Agent Palmer
Device? I don’t know that I had prepared you well enough for, for the, for the college football I did how.
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Stefanie Stershic
Much it, how much you would basically be watching it like on the TV. The TV would be devoted to to that.
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Agent Palmer
Well, yeah, because I don’t have it. I think the difference is like if I had a team that’s two games, like if I had a pro team in college at two, but I like college football. Yeah. You just watch it from noon till midnight. Yeah. And so that’s, you know, you get a taste of that. And then college football season ends.
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Agent Palmer
You got, you got your first taste of March Madness the following March as we’re talking about like, okay. Yeah, I watched a lot of college basketball for four straight days. And then, and then baseball season starts. Now I’m I’m watching the games. You’re you’re there just in passing.
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Stefanie Stershic
Yeah. I’m I’m kind of in and out. I’m not. I’m not heavily. I’m not heavily watching anything like I, I’m, they’re like, I want to spend time with you. So I’ll be sitting on the couch, but I’ll usually be doing something else, like, I’m not super paying attention to any of the game, regardless of what sport it is, just kind of.
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Agent Palmer
And this is 2019, right? Yeah. So and but and I bring it up because if we want to fast forward for a moment.
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Stefanie Stershic
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Agent Palmer
You’ll watch college football with me.
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Stefanie Stershic
Yeah.
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Agent Palmer
You watch pro football with me. You watch baseball with me.
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Stefanie Stershic
Every single Orioles game that I can watch.
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Agent Palmer
So none of that stuff I feel like I, I don’t I came.
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Stefanie Stershic
In, I came into this house disliking baseball. I thought it was boring. I didn’t get it. I had never seen a game. I’d never been to a game. You take me to my first baseball game, the local Lehigh Valley Iron Pigs. Yep.
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Agent Palmer
Yep.
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Stefanie Stershic
And I had a blast thinking, is this what baseball is?
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Agent Palmer
Not quite. I mean, not quite, not quite in the triple A baseball. Slightly different.
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Stefanie Stershic
Yeah. It’s not major league.
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Agent Palmer
But what we we did, I did kind of, I and I did do it on purpose, by the way, like I was.
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Stefanie Stershic
That was also that was that was after March Madness that we it was like April.
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Agent Palmer
May. No, I would have been June. No.
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Stefanie Stershic
No it was, it was earlier.
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Agent Palmer
It was April. Because I took you to a cold game.
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Stefanie Stershic
Yeah. We bundled up. I remember there, there was several layers underneath the jersey that I was wearing.
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Agent Palmer
So I’ve, you know, we didn’t go into like, we talked about the things we had in common. We didn’t really talk about the things we didn’t have in common, which is not on.
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Stefanie Stershic
Look, that’s not common.
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Agent Palmer
That’s it’s first of all, it’s not uncommon to do that. And second of all, in a long distance relationship, you’re going to double down on the things you have in common. Yeah. You can talk. Yeah, yeah.
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Stefanie Stershic
And the rescue you learn once you move into just like that’s the things that you pick up.
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Agent Palmer
Arms up. Yeah. And then I did take you to a, during that year when we fast forward to the fall. I did take you to a basketball game. Yeah. College basketball game. Obviously, everybody knows what’s coming. That’s following along with 2019. Yeah. But what they don’t know is that, we’re not going to get into specifics, but your mother has to move in with us.
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Agent Palmer
Yeah, for a fairly long time. Yeah. And it’s not just that your mother is moving in with us.
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Stefanie Stershic
Our family cat, Max is also moving him. Because in. Yeah, in December of 2019, I fly to Phoenix and help my mom finish up things. We basically, we both own the house together, so we were there to sell the house. We sold the house, everything got packed up. And then I was going to drive with my mom and the cat in her car across the.
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Agent Palmer
Country temporarily to temporarily live.
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Stefanie Stershic
Yeah, with us temporarily, until she could move on to, she was going to move to Virginia. She was going to find a place she was going to do everything that was, that was the that was the plan.
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Agent Palmer
So plan then and then.
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Stefanie Stershic
So that was the time that that we stopped in New Mexico first because we had the cat with us. So we knew we couldn’t go like 11 hours straight because it just wasn’t going to work. Plus my mom didn’t want to. So it was going to be a slightly longer drive than what I had done the year before.
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Agent Palmer
But, I and I had already met. First of all, I’d already met your mother. Yeah. By. I I’m not. I look, I would be a cat person over a dog person,
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Stefanie Stershic
If you but you would not had a pet.
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Agent Palmer
I hadn’t had a pet in, like, 20 years. I had no pets in the house. And so, all of a sudden.
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Agent Palmer
I’m, a cat owner, basically. Because even if we fast forward to your mother being here for like six months because of the pandemic, she was gone for a little bit of it.
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Stefanie Stershic
Yeah. So basically, we arrive in December. The plan is for her to kind of go in and manage things in, in Virginia, but come January, she she went to Virginia. She went out there a few weekends, started looking around, had a realtor, was trying to find places and things like that. It basically I think at the same time, because this was she.
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Agent Palmer
Was just getting frustrated. She wanted to get out. So she went to Germany.
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Stefanie Stershic
Well, yeah. So so basically in February she went to Germany.
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Agent Palmer
And then two weeks, then, then the pandemic.
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Stefanie Stershic
There after the pandemic. And I.
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Agent Palmer
Think I remember I succinctly remember now, look, I’ve called your mother, mom.
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Stefanie Stershic
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Agent Palmer
Since the first time I met her. Yeah. When she came out with you in the summer. And I almost killed her with humidity.
00:17:08:28 – 00:17:11:49
Stefanie Stershic
The humidity. I remember.
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Agent Palmer
I remember you being on the call with your mother and your mother saying she wanted to come back, and I said.
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Stefanie Stershic
No, no, it’s not.
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Agent Palmer
It was not. It wasn’t like, don’t come back. Oh, like future mother in law. Like, no, no, no, it was just bees. No, it was your wasn’t possible. Like, I don’t know if it was like maybe Europe was, it was still handled it very differently and it was still very much early days here. But it was get it.
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Agent Palmer
You could tell it was getting worse. And yeah, I think your mother was.
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Stefanie Stershic
Down was happening and.
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Agent Palmer
I was very much like you don’t you don’t want to come back here. Not now.
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Stefanie Stershic
Don’t risk it. Why bother? Like don’t travel like anything like that. And that’s how my mom wound up trapped in Germany until June. Yeah.
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Agent Palmer
And then your mother came back, and then eventually she finds.
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Stefanie Stershic
Left again and. And. Yeah.
00:18:01:15 – 00:18:10:40
Agent Palmer
And so, also at this time, support moves from, from from Scranton down to.
00:18:10:40 – 00:18:11:59
Stefanie Stershic
Here,
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Agent Palmer
And during the pandemic, we basically adopted him. Yeah. Because he was working remotely like everybody else, but he is working remotely in an apartment by himself, and he’s like, do just come over once a week. So when we started the Pathfinder. Yep, we started gaming.
00:18:24:07 – 00:18:30:40
Stefanie Stershic
He became he he was part of our circle. Yeah. Because you can hang out with people in your circle. So yeah, he definitely became our circle.
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Agent Palmer
And so, it’s it’s at this time that, we kind of got to do a lot of. Well, and I got fired.
00:18:45:54 – 00:18:46:46
Stefanie Stershic
Did you lost your.
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Agent Palmer
Job in that? You. But at this point, because of all the time, I’m on unemployment. You’re on 60% work load.
00:18:58:45 – 00:19:03:33
Stefanie Stershic
It was like something to that. Yeah, they cut our hours during the pandemic, but we so I would.
00:19:03:33 – 00:19:04:04
Agent Palmer
I got to.
00:19:04:04 – 00:19:04:45
Stefanie Stershic
Two days.
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Agent Palmer
That kind of what we should have done, what we would have done had we been early dating. Right. Like we didn’t really get to go anywhere. There wasn’t as much open. But like, we were watching things together. I introduced you to some shows.
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Stefanie Stershic
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Agent Palmer
So we did some watches. Rewatches for me, but watch for you. I introduced you to a bunch of movies. Yeah, we, we did, we did. We went back and forth on movies. Yeah. Not so much on TV shows. And so that happens, we discover Minecraft together at this.
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Stefanie Stershic
Point, Yeah.
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Agent Palmer
We discovered, I got you into magic around the.
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Stefanie Stershic
That was already. That was. Well, that was already in 2019 because, I moved in and in January.
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Agent Palmer
Is that what I got you for?
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Stefanie Stershic
It was. That’s what you got me for my birthday was like, Magic the Gathering, like, party set where it.
00:20:04:15 – 00:20:05:26
Agent Palmer
Was a starter or.
00:20:05:30 – 00:20:09:46
Stefanie Stershic
It was some kind of starter set, but it was like several different, decks.
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Agent Palmer
We also got into some other, like, online communities, but not nearly like we talked about last episode with the seven days early. Like, this is just consuming and entertainment and we’re not, and then at some point, I started this podcast.
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Stefanie Stershic
00:20:31:22 – 00:20:34:22
Agent Palmer
Which comes after your podcast with no.
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Stefanie Stershic
End. And so.
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Agent Palmer
I’ve been trying to get you guys.
00:20:39:34 – 00:20:40:53
Stefanie Stershic
To start another one.
00:20:40:58 – 00:20:43:44
Agent Palmer
Ever since, and it’s just not working.
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Stefanie Stershic
Yeah. It’s like we need something to talk about. Like we can the two of us just can’t. Like we had Gotham.
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Agent Palmer
And then you did The Orville.
00:20:52:21 – 00:21:13:13
Stefanie Stershic
Gotham was ending, so we continued on a little bit longer because then we both fell in love with The Orville. And then that also ended the both the shows we were talking about and loved, and were the basis for our podcast had ended. So, yeah. And we both moved on to what at the time was,
00:21:13:18 – 00:21:14:21
Agent Palmer
Dig up and go, oh.
00:21:14:30 – 00:21:17:55
Stefanie Stershic
Geek up and go came first. But that was just that was mostly me. That wasn’t. Hey. No.
00:21:18:00 – 00:21:19:27
Agent Palmer
Okay.
00:21:19:32 – 00:21:27:14
Stefanie Stershic
Geek up and go happened. That was with Roy. Yeah. But then later, what happened with me and Roy and Sean was moving the needle?
00:21:27:27 – 00:21:40:19
Agent Palmer
No, moving the needle was first. You got it wrong. Moving the needle was first, then it kind of dialed back up and go started. And then they went back to moving the needle because I was on moving the needle at that point, a couple times a year.
00:21:40:23 – 00:21:42:30
Stefanie Stershic
I was yeah, you had back and forth. But.
00:21:42:35 – 00:21:43:52
Agent Palmer
So all of this to say that.
00:21:43:52 – 00:21:50:02
Stefanie Stershic
But before I was on moving the needle, I was on Geek up a go. So geek up and go happened to for me first did it? It did.
00:21:50:06 – 00:21:50:46
Agent Palmer
Okay.
00:21:50:51 – 00:21:55:59
Stefanie Stershic
Because I did that with Roy, and then later on because I had done that with Roy. That’s why I was considered for moving.
00:21:55:59 – 00:22:01:10
Agent Palmer
So when this happens, you start fading out of podcast.
00:22:01:10 – 00:22:02:00
Stefanie Stershic
I do, yeah.
00:22:02:13 – 00:22:06:05
Agent Palmer
And I had started my show at that point.
00:22:06:10 – 00:22:07:40
Stefanie Stershic
Only room for one podcast.
00:22:07:45 – 00:22:18:20
Agent Palmer
That’s not true. Anyone listening to this right now just know that I have encouraged her to get back on the mic and you do eventually start your own stream. But we’re not there yet.
00:22:18:22 – 00:22:19:32
Stefanie Stershic
No, that’s in 2021.
00:22:19:32 – 00:22:41:24
Agent Palmer
So at this point, as, the world’s returning back to normal, I take you to your first Orioles game. Yeah, we go to Baltimore for a three game set. We only catch two games because there’s a rainout. Yeah, but you’re there. We kind of do the Baltimore thing a bit.
00:22:41:29 – 00:22:47:22
Stefanie Stershic
Around Harbor and, go to the science museum because, you know, we have a thing with science.
00:22:47:22 – 00:22:49:01
Agent Palmer
We went to the art museum. There was an art, and.
00:22:49:01 – 00:22:52:01
Stefanie Stershic
We went there. Museum. Yeah, but we did the science museum because we’re like, hey, we did it.
00:22:52:01 – 00:22:59:16
Agent Palmer
Before for a second year. And then we went back the next year and we found an amazing, Mediterranean place.
00:22:59:22 – 00:22:59:55
Stefanie Stershic
Yeah.
00:23:00:00 – 00:23:00:54
Agent Palmer
00:23:00:59 – 00:23:02:55
Stefanie Stershic
But and a really good coffee place.
00:23:02:59 – 00:23:03:32
Agent Palmer
That’s true.
00:23:03:37 – 00:23:05:27
Stefanie Stershic
Yeah.
00:23:05:32 – 00:23:22:22
Agent Palmer
And so, now you’re into baseball? Yes. And I remember the first spring training that the first opening day you were excited for, and you were living and dying with every game. And I was like, wait until October for this. It’s too early to care.
00:23:22:32 – 00:23:29:00
Stefanie Stershic
I dove in with both feet. Yeah. And I was like, I am vested. I am living and dying. This.
00:23:29:07 – 00:23:47:19
Agent Palmer
You were very much a soccer slash football fan. Come to baseball where it’s like, when were football’s 1617 games in the season? Yeah, soccer. You know, they play a lot more than that. But it’s not a 162. No. Like you can’t live as high as a lot of the game.
00:23:47:19 – 00:23:53:13
Stefanie Stershic
It’s like I was very upset when they would lose. You’re like, there’s still plenty of time. It’s fine, it’s fine.
00:23:53:13 – 00:23:56:43
Agent Palmer
Yeah. And so and now, you know. Yeah. And we got there.
00:23:56:51 – 00:23:57:34
Stefanie Stershic
00:23:57:39 – 00:24:06:02
Agent Palmer
And I feel like all the while, as things are going along, you and I are fine. I think.
00:24:06:06 – 00:24:07:13
Stefanie Stershic
You think I.
00:24:07:18 – 00:24:17:12
Agent Palmer
Well, we’re like, everything’s working out, but it does start to creep up like, occasionally, especially friends who know us.
00:24:17:12 – 00:24:24:20
Stefanie Stershic
Friends, parents parent. Yeah. So when, when are you gonna ask her to marry her? When are you going to ask her?
00:24:24:21 – 00:24:39:00
Agent Palmer
When are you gonna marry? And it is in November of 2023 that were like, October, November?
00:24:39:04 – 00:24:40:04
Stefanie Stershic
Was it November?
00:24:40:09 – 00:24:48:09
Agent Palmer
It was much later. We didn’t do it right away, but it was very much, when do you want to get married? Let’s get married.
00:24:48:13 – 00:24:49:54
Stefanie Stershic
It was, though. I thought it was October, though.
00:24:49:59 – 00:24:59:06
Agent Palmer
I think it was. Well, it would have been late October or early November, but it was very much, we should get married on our anniversary so we don’t have to remember another.
00:24:59:06 – 00:24:59:40
Stefanie Stershic
Date for date.
00:24:59:42 – 00:25:02:53
Agent Palmer
Yeah, which sucks, because it just happened.
00:25:02:58 – 00:25:04:04
Stefanie Stershic
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:25:04:06 – 00:25:13:29
Agent Palmer
I know, I think it was November, I really do. But, so we tell.
00:25:13:34 – 00:25:14:35
Agent Palmer
Our parents.
00:25:14:50 – 00:25:15:44
Stefanie Stershic
00:25:15:49 – 00:25:23:56
Agent Palmer
And our close friends. And then we start figuring out like how small or large do we want this thing to be. Yeah. And what do we want it to be.
00:25:24:00 – 00:25:24:36
Stefanie Stershic
00:25:24:41 – 00:25:28:06
Agent Palmer
And where all of all of the questions.
00:25:28:10 – 00:25:39:41
Stefanie Stershic
Yeah. We start, we start thinking about it. And lo and behold there’s a family friend that is married to someone who used to work with your father and used to be you.
00:25:39:46 – 00:25:40:58
Agent Palmer
I work there too.
00:25:40:58 – 00:25:44:00
Stefanie Stershic
Yeah. You used to work with both of you.
00:25:44:05 – 00:25:45:38
Agent Palmer
Who does weddings?
00:25:45:44 – 00:25:48:47
Stefanie Stershic
Yeah, that’s what she’s like. She’s mostly retired, or.
00:25:48:47 – 00:25:49:54
Agent Palmer
Now she’s.
00:25:49:59 – 00:25:55:35
Stefanie Stershic
Completely retired. She does, but that’s what she does is she. She officiates weddings and weddings of all types.
00:25:55:35 – 00:25:55:50
Agent Palmer
And.
00:25:55:50 – 00:26:13:08
Stefanie Stershic
Sizes and sizes and all types of ceremonies. And so we we reach out to her and say, hey, this is what we’re thinking. And she sends us way more information. I think we are prepared for, schedules, like an official, like Skype call with us.
00:26:13:13 – 00:26:15:53
Agent Palmer
It was, but I was on Skype, but it was another.
00:26:15:57 – 00:26:19:27
Stefanie Stershic
Yeah, yeah, it was, but, video call to kind of, like, chat with us.
00:26:19:39 – 00:26:25:03
Agent Palmer
We we had a thing. She wrote this, she wrote this, she wrote an initial outline.
00:26:25:03 – 00:26:39:13
Stefanie Stershic
She introduced us to the fact that you could have an elopement ceremony. Yeah, because we knew what eloping was. You just go off and get married and get it done over with, or go. Do you go to a courthouse? You do something, you know, it’s it’s easy peasy. It’s not this whole big affair. But then she’s like, oh, but you could do it all.
00:26:39:13 – 00:26:53:05
Stefanie Stershic
Open ceremony to make it seem a little bit more, you know, official and still have some formal and also still have some type of ceremony that is, that is being officiated and it’s stuff like that. We’re like, oh, tell us more.
00:26:53:10 – 00:27:02:55
Agent Palmer
Yeah. And then, we get an approved thing. And at this point we’ve, we’ve decided it’s going to be very small.
00:27:02:59 – 00:27:03:17
Stefanie Stershic
Yeah.
00:27:03:19 – 00:27:11:39
Agent Palmer
It’s going to be the backyard. Yep. But I don’t think we decided on a theme. Not that we had a theme at the point at that time.
00:27:11:39 – 00:27:17:01
Stefanie Stershic
No, people asked us that. Like, they’re like, oh, dude, you are you gonna have a theme? Where you going to do certain thing?
00:27:17:01 – 00:27:35:56
Agent Palmer
Oh, by the way, I don’t know, by the way. And and I want to tell you, I can’t take credit for this idea. I it came out of a conversation I was having with somebody else, but we had we did eventually decide on not a theme necessarily. It turned into a theme.
00:27:36:06 – 00:27:36:26
Stefanie Stershic
It kind of.
00:27:36:26 – 00:27:46:45
Agent Palmer
Did. But instead of buying or renting a tux and a dresser. Banjos. Yeah. We just decided to get a black Orioles jersey.
00:27:46:45 – 00:27:47:04
Stefanie Stershic
And a.
00:27:47:04 – 00:27:56:31
Agent Palmer
White and a white Orioles jersey as a bride and groom. His and her whatever. Sturgis 2424.
00:27:56:31 – 00:27:57:10
Stefanie Stershic
For the for.
00:27:57:10 – 00:28:04:21
Agent Palmer
The year. I cannot believe we get we got so many questions about.
00:28:04:26 – 00:28:04:36
Stefanie Stershic
The.
00:28:04:36 – 00:28:05:35
Agent Palmer
Thing.
00:28:05:39 – 00:28:07:13
Stefanie Stershic
Why was she 24?
00:28:07:13 – 00:28:15:38
Agent Palmer
And so over the summer before our wedding, my parents have their 50th wedding anniversary.
00:28:15:38 – 00:28:17:21
Stefanie Stershic
Yes.
00:28:17:26 – 00:28:19:34
Agent Palmer
And we hadn’t told everyone.
00:28:19:36 – 00:28:21:04
Stefanie Stershic
No, we hadn’t told the wider.
00:28:21:13 – 00:28:35:27
Agent Palmer
Wider family and friends. Yeah. And so, my and like, my parents did not want speeches at their 50th. No. So the only person people who were allowed to speak at the 50th were my mom and my dad.
00:28:35:29 – 00:28:37:04
Stefanie Stershic
Yeah, they were going to do a quick speech.
00:28:37:04 – 00:28:47:46
Agent Palmer
And so I said, I told my dad to tell everybody about our upcoming nuptials because.
00:28:47:51 – 00:28:49:57
Stefanie Stershic
First it was like he would let you say something he.
00:28:49:57 – 00:28:57:08
Agent Palmer
Was originally. But I thought that was a bad idea because I was convinced that opening the door for me to speak, even though I’m the only sign.
00:28:57:10 – 00:28:57:59
Stefanie Stershic
Would make other people.
00:28:57:59 – 00:28:59:31
Agent Palmer
Opens the door for other people.
00:28:59:31 – 00:29:03:26
Stefanie Stershic
That so finally was decided like, no, no, you, you you announce it once you’re done with.
00:29:03:26 – 00:29:04:35
Agent Palmer
All of your all your other things.
00:29:04:35 – 00:29:05:36
Stefanie Stershic
And your speeches and your thank.
00:29:05:36 – 00:29:15:28
Agent Palmer
You. And and what word did my father use to describe our soon to be nuptials? Finally. That’s correct.
00:29:15:33 – 00:29:22:22
Stefanie Stershic
Which is what he repeated at our wedding. Yes, that is.
00:29:22:26 – 00:29:23:48
Agent Palmer
And so we.
00:29:23:53 – 00:29:25:18
Stefanie Stershic
I think we have another video.
00:29:25:23 – 00:29:32:36
Agent Palmer
We do and then we, we it turned into a theme because I have enough jerseys here to outfit a team.
00:29:32:36 – 00:29:33:19
Stefanie Stershic
Oh, and your parents?
00:29:33:19 – 00:29:34:11
Agent Palmer
My dad does your.
00:29:34:11 – 00:29:35:07
Stefanie Stershic
Your dad has plenty of. Yeah.
00:29:35:07 – 00:29:42:07
Agent Palmer
So we did take a few pictures of, like, everybody who’s really got to wear jersey. They’re a, nine.
00:29:42:11 – 00:29:43:56
Stefanie Stershic
There was.
00:29:44:01 – 00:29:44:39
Agent Palmer
Dunk.
00:29:44:44 – 00:29:51:18
Stefanie Stershic
Laura who was officiating the wedding. You and me, my mom. Zapata. Chris and your parents.
00:29:51:25 – 00:29:51:45
Agent Palmer
Yeah.
00:29:51:54 – 00:29:53:45
Stefanie Stershic
So it was eight.
00:29:53:58 – 00:29:56:04
Agent Palmer
Yeah, it would have been ten.
00:29:56:04 – 00:29:58:42
Stefanie Stershic
It would have been ten. There would have been two more. There’s a there was a.
00:29:58:42 – 00:30:02:10
Agent Palmer
Suffrage is a good situation. Happy.
00:30:02:14 – 00:30:04:30
Stefanie Stershic
It was good. Yeah. But they couldn’t make it.
00:30:04:35 – 00:30:14:44
Agent Palmer
Yeah. My God. Parish ended up meeting their, their new grandson. Yeah. The night before. And it was like, all right, we got it. That that’s important. Don’t worry about it.
00:30:14:53 – 00:30:22:36
Stefanie Stershic
No, it was that it was going to be that day because they had to watch. Oh yeah. Other child while they went and got the baby. It’s fine.
00:30:22:41 – 00:30:29:53
Agent Palmer
And so we went and we got married at ten, ten, 1030.
00:30:29:58 – 00:30:39:04
Stefanie Stershic
Yeah. Or 1030 we had, we had said ten. But then by the time, you know, everyone was ready and we were, you know, it had been around that which was, which is fine. Like 1030 is going to be.
00:30:39:04 – 00:30:41:13
Agent Palmer
In the mall. It was 12 minutes long.
00:30:41:17 – 00:30:46:00
Stefanie Stershic
Yeah. We had been told it would be 20. So yeah, we had to go. We should have.
00:30:46:00 – 00:30:46:30
Agent Palmer
I think.
00:30:46:30 – 00:30:47:51
Stefanie Stershic
We to, but we can’t.
00:30:47:55 – 00:30:50:49
Agent Palmer
We cut some of Laura’s stuff. We didn’t.
00:30:50:49 – 00:30:52:35
Stefanie Stershic
Cut a lot though.
00:30:52:35 – 00:30:56:06
Agent Palmer
But, well, but we didn’t do our own. We didn’t, you.
00:30:56:11 – 00:31:04:35
Stefanie Stershic
Know, we we could have a we said now we do. We didn’t need to, which would have added to it, but even it was still going to be approximately 20 minutes with what had been written.
00:31:04:40 – 00:31:05:09
Agent Palmer
Yeah.
00:31:05:14 – 00:31:11:53
Stefanie Stershic
But I think it just got it went fast anyway. But yeah. So, so.
00:31:11:53 – 00:31:13:13
Agent Palmer
And then we went in for cake.
00:31:13:13 – 00:31:26:19
Stefanie Stershic
Chris was was taking photos with your phone the whole time. He also had his professional camera with him. So he was he recorded the whole thing. So we had the whole thing on video, which you still have to edit. Yeah.
00:31:26:24 – 00:31:27:55
Agent Palmer
Not by the time this thing is.
00:31:27:55 – 00:31:40:38
Stefanie Stershic
No. So we still have to edit that. And then he took a bunch of photos of the camera afterwards of us. We went in, we did the cake cutting. We we cut the cake, and we we fed each other cake.
00:31:40:43 – 00:31:42:22
Agent Palmer
And then we went out to lunch, and then we.
00:31:42:22 – 00:31:42:56
Stefanie Stershic
Went out to lunch.
00:31:42:56 – 00:31:47:54
Agent Palmer
And everybody came back to the house, even though they didn’t have to. And then by about 3:00, everybody left.
00:31:47:58 – 00:31:50:15
Stefanie Stershic
Yeah. And and we just had the house to ourselves.
00:31:50:15 – 00:31:53:05
Agent Palmer
We were married and that was that.
00:31:53:10 – 00:31:53:39
Stefanie Stershic
Yeah.
00:31:53:44 – 00:31:55:29
Agent Palmer
And
00:31:55:33 – 00:32:12:51
Stefanie Stershic
And it didn’t, it didn’t feel that different other than the fact that we both had, a new piece of jewelry on our finger that we weren’t used to. Yeah, that’s that was the, I think, the most thing that we had to get used to because afterwards, whenever, whenever someone asked, like, what’s it, how does it feel? How do you feel?
00:32:12:55 – 00:32:14:21
Agent Palmer
I’m not used to a ring. Yeah.
00:32:14:35 – 00:32:19:27
Stefanie Stershic
That was the hardest part. We’d been living together already, so we were used to each other. It wasn’t like.
00:32:19:27 – 00:32:23:20
Agent Palmer
Yeah, I mean, I know how to cook for you. Yeah, I know what the.
00:32:23:22 – 00:32:33:51
Stefanie Stershic
We know each other’s habits. A lot of each other’s pet peeves, all of each other’s anxieties. I like it, and we’d all be living together. So it wasn’t that we had to go out and, like, now we’ll go. We’ll find a.
00:32:33:51 – 00:32:55:00
Agent Palmer
House to go. Yeah, yeah, we I, we I, I own a house and we, we have, you know, silverware and cutlery. Yeah. We have a, we have dishes like all of the things like we didn’t and look, we didn’t have a registry, we didn’t invite that many people. So it wasn’t that big of a deal either.
00:32:55:05 – 00:33:03:41
Stefanie Stershic
And people like, they, they, they gave gifts, but it was mostly like, just gift cards here and there, and a little bit of money. Didn’t ask.
00:33:03:41 – 00:33:04:11
Agent Palmer
For anything.
00:33:04:18 – 00:33:13:34
Stefanie Stershic
We didn’t ask for anything. They could. We just as people just decided to give us things because they wanted to give us gifts, which is which is fine. We put it all into a savings account and then we’re were going to leave it there.
00:33:13:45 – 00:33:28:09
Agent Palmer
And so you you, you know, that happened. Yeah. Any regrets? I it hasn’t been that long.
00:33:28:13 – 00:33:33:45
Stefanie Stershic
It’s been three months as a, as a, as a recording, I think,
00:33:33:50 – 00:33:36:42
Agent Palmer
I spent two and a half months as of recording.
00:33:36:42 – 00:33:37:13
Stefanie Stershic
And then.
00:33:37:16 – 00:33:56:45
Agent Palmer
It’ll be three and a half months by the time it releases. I think my math is right. But now, I mean, look at I. I’m happy. Yeah, but it’s I don’t like I look, I don’t know if I’m supposed to say this because like, it breaks the sanctity of marriage or whatever, but like, I’m not happy you’re that.
00:33:56:45 – 00:34:00:14
Agent Palmer
You’re my wife. You know what I mean? Like, you’re still happy.
00:34:00:14 – 00:34:01:06
Stefanie Stershic
You’re just happy that I’m here.
00:34:01:06 – 00:34:02:34
Agent Palmer
I’m still happy you’re here.
00:34:02:45 – 00:34:18:13
Stefanie Stershic
Yeah. I mean, I see it, it has, and I don’t even want to say furthered our relationship because I haven’t really done that either, but I guess it’s taken it in in like that. More official traditional step.
00:34:18:13 – 00:34:24:43
Agent Palmer
I mean, I will say my and those people who have been listening to the podcast know that I called you my partner. Yeah.
00:34:24:50 – 00:34:27:24
Stefanie Stershic
Because girlfriend seemed weird.
00:34:27:28 – 00:34:33:42
Agent Palmer
I was, I was in my mid 30s. One of the podcast started late 30s. Yeah. I don’t want to have a girlfriend.
00:34:33:46 – 00:34:36:56
Stefanie Stershic
Yeah. We were both the kind of the age was like girls.
00:34:36:57 – 00:34:57:01
Agent Palmer
A good girlfriend, boyfriend. Sounds weird. Partners, partner sounds more. I’m all right. Yeah. Like I. And now I can change it to value by the way, I. I held on to partner when referring to you on this show for a little bit longer. Because I didn’t know when things were going to release. Yeah, yeah. I didn’t want to say wife before we were actually married.
00:34:57:01 – 00:35:18:51
Agent Palmer
Yeah. I think I’ve said it. I think it’s been out. I think I’ve said it a couple of since then. Although I’ve recorded episodes, I have no idea where everything is. But I, I and I hear you like, I remember because I, I’m a consultant now, so I’m home, you know, like we, we share a wall.
00:35:18:58 – 00:35:19:42
Stefanie Stershic
00:35:20:04 – 00:35:45:58
Agent Palmer
I’m going to eventually move my office and then I won’t share a wall with you. But like, I heard for like a month every time you talk to a new coworker, I would hear you retell the story. Yeah. Of our wedding. Sometimes it would be an encompassing of all both episodes that we did of like.
00:35:45:58 – 00:35:47:44
Agent Palmer
Well, we met on Twitter through the podcast.
00:35:47:44 – 00:35:58:55
Stefanie Stershic
Early on, it was a truncated how we met. Yeah. I was telling the the. Yeah, because they they asked me, you know, am I married or and I know that I live with my partner and blah, blah blah.
00:35:59:08 – 00:36:01:07
Agent Palmer
And you’ve changed your name.
00:36:01:11 – 00:36:01:55
Stefanie Stershic
I did, and.
00:36:01:55 – 00:36:05:32
Agent Palmer
You got to learn how to get a new signature.
00:36:05:45 – 00:36:08:21
Stefanie Stershic
To learn a new signature. That that’s been interesting. Is it.
00:36:08:31 – 00:36:09:12
Agent Palmer
00:36:09:17 – 00:36:12:44
Stefanie Stershic
Do you having a signature with two S’s? And it is strange.
00:36:12:49 – 00:36:25:23
Agent Palmer
So are you, like, if if I asked you to sign now or you’re like. Or is it still, like, you still have to think about you still go to your maiden name? I mean, like, we haven’t been married for 50 years. Like, my parents are, like. So, I mean.
00:36:25:23 – 00:36:26:43
Stefanie Stershic
We’ve been married a year. Yeah. Yeah.
00:36:26:47 – 00:36:27:21
Agent Palmer
So I know.
00:36:27:21 – 00:36:36:32
Stefanie Stershic
Like, I don’t have much opportunity to sign it. So yeah, at this point, if I have to sign something with the new name, it’ll still be kind of like,
00:36:36:37 – 00:36:40:40
Agent Palmer
But asking, like, if I say, what’s your name? Like, you’re good on that. Yeah. Okay.
00:36:40:54 – 00:36:46:47
Stefanie Stershic
Yeah, yeah. Stefanie.
00:36:46:52 – 00:36:55:28
Stefanie Stershic
And there’s no, there’s, there’s people that, outside of my, my team that I work with directly who are starting to find out still did did you, did your name.
00:36:55:28 – 00:36:57:22
Agent Palmer
Change or do they just think you’re a new person?
00:36:57:27 – 00:37:24:24
Stefanie Stershic
Well, some of them. I did have one person email recently though. Like I don’t think we’ve worked together before and I responded back and went, no, we have. We worked together for many years. I just have a different name now. There you go. Oh, okay. That’s funny. It is funny. But yeah, a few people who who kind of knew me but didn’t work directly with me, but knew my my previous last name, were like, did you get married?
00:37:24:29 – 00:37:27:52
Stefanie Stershic
Like, yeah, I did. They’re like, oh my God. Congratulations.
00:37:27:57 – 00:37:39:23
Agent Palmer
So I, I want to ask this question, like. And look what took us two episodes because we were very thorough.
00:37:39:28 – 00:37:40:01
Stefanie Stershic
00:37:40:05 – 00:38:02:31
Agent Palmer
In our retelling was something we had down to a five minute. I feel like we had it down to a 7 to 10 minute story, maybe five, because you and I, like, we two things. One, we started to, I won’t say double date, but we started to go out to dinner with other people. Yeah. And especially when you first moved and I was introducing you to people.
00:38:02:31 – 00:38:04:08
Agent Palmer
Yeah. Everybody would ask.
00:38:04:08 – 00:38:11:10
Stefanie Stershic
Yeah, they all me. How do we, how do, how, how did how had we met. And we took turns telling it and.
00:38:11:10 – 00:38:37:54
Agent Palmer
We kind of got it down. I mean, one of the reasons I wanted to do these episodes, because I wanted a full encapsulation of the full story. Yeah, but I was a little worried because, like, I know we’re podcasters and we can talk and we’ve proven that with phone bills. But like, I it was just we had gotten so good at meeting somebody new or meeting somebody like a, like a, a not like a distant relative and being like, all right.
00:38:37:54 – 00:38:42:56
Agent Palmer
Well, yeah. We met through a podcast, you know.
00:38:43:00 – 00:38:45:23
Stefanie Stershic
Sometimes depending on.
00:38:45:27 – 00:38:47:01
Agent Palmer
Circumstances, who they were, how.
00:38:47:01 – 00:38:47:29
Stefanie Stershic
They were.
00:38:47:30 – 00:38:47:52
Agent Palmer
Had.
00:38:47:55 – 00:38:55:32
Stefanie Stershic
Yeah. How long we had their age, we would either be we met on Twitter and or we met through podcasting or we met online.
00:38:55:37 – 00:38:56:49
Agent Palmer
Yeah. There’s a very.
00:38:56:54 – 00:39:00:00
Stefanie Stershic
There was some versions just to make it easier to, for.
00:39:00:00 – 00:39:03:39
Agent Palmer
Whoever it was a little less explanation. What’s a podcast?
00:39:03:39 – 00:39:07:06
Stefanie Stershic
Yeah, exactly. Yeah, yeah, we had learned we had learned certain.
00:39:07:09 – 00:39:17:10
Agent Palmer
It took a while. We. Yeah, it took a while to get there, but yeah, it’s and it’s it’s crazy now too because we kept it so quiet.
00:39:17:24 – 00:39:18:37
Stefanie Stershic
00:39:18:42 – 00:39:52:50
Agent Palmer
That I had I told some of the friends from that circle, not everyone and everybody has their own lives. So if I did tell them once and I think people are so used to like getting an invite that when you were like, oh, I got married last weekend, we really like I think it from from telling them we’re getting married and then no invitation because we did something so small.
00:39:52:50 – 00:39:54:16
Agent Palmer
I think everybody just forget.
00:39:54:18 – 00:39:56:17
Stefanie Stershic
You kind of forgets. Yeah.
00:39:56:22 – 00:40:08:52
Agent Palmer
I don’t have to get them a gift. I don’t have to RSVP. I don’t have to. Whatever. And so, like, we’re still now and probably will for a while explaining to people, oh, no. Yeah. We got we got married.
00:40:08:54 – 00:40:10:51
Stefanie Stershic
We got married. See? Rings look like it’s great.
00:40:10:52 – 00:40:12:24
Agent Palmer
It’s a thing. Yeah. It happened.
00:40:12:29 – 00:40:25:50
Stefanie Stershic
It did. The my name is now different. Yeah. Yeah. And some people we were telling like, that their, their plans in the future to have like a bigger celebration where we can invite the. Yeah.
00:40:25:55 – 00:40:27:07
Agent Palmer
But that’s a party.
00:40:27:12 – 00:40:33:16
Stefanie Stershic
Yeah. It’ll be, it’ll be a party. I am still insisting that we do kind of like a renewal ceremony, because Laura said she could do it.
00:40:33:26 – 00:40:34:26
Agent Palmer
I don’t think.
00:40:34:31 – 00:40:53:53
Stefanie Stershic
And we’re going to. And we’re going to do it just so that we can have some kind of pomp and circumstance there for the party. It’s going to be short again, but it’ll be something and then we’ll just party and hang out with the people that we love. And and that’ll be great. So anyone that may have felt missed out or felt like they were missing out, what?
00:40:53:53 – 00:41:04:03
Stefanie Stershic
Because then they’ll get to see something and at least, you know, celebrate with us. Kind of like a I won’t say normal wedding, but more closely resembling that.
00:41:04:08 – 00:41:05:12
Agent Palmer
I guess I.
00:41:05:12 – 00:41:18:43
Stefanie Stershic
Don’t. Yeah, I know it’ll be fun because what we’ve, what we thought was, even though we got married this year, we realized that in two years. Because if you all remember from the first episode, we started dating in 2016.
00:41:18:52 – 00:41:20:40
Agent Palmer
We’ll be able to been together, together.
00:41:20:53 – 00:41:21:20
Stefanie Stershic
Together.
00:41:21:27 – 00:41:22:03
Agent Palmer
For ten.
00:41:22:04 – 00:41:23:01
Stefanie Stershic
Ten years. Can you.
00:41:23:01 – 00:41:30:59
Agent Palmer
Believe? Like, seriously, I mean, that’s the thing, right? Like basically eight years into this relationship, we all,
00:41:31:04 – 00:41:36:39
Stefanie Stershic
People who know us are surprised that it’s been that long.
00:41:36:44 – 00:41:41:36
Agent Palmer
Yeah. This is officially now my longest relationship.
00:41:41:41 – 00:41:46:26
Stefanie Stershic
Whew. I’m the best.
00:41:46:30 – 00:41:48:24
Agent Palmer
And this is my last relationship.
00:41:48:24 – 00:41:53:21
Stefanie Stershic
So, yeah, you’re the last.
00:41:53:26 – 00:42:01:30
Agent Palmer
Yeah. No. Hey. It’s, I, I, I said I do, and I meant it.
00:42:01:35 – 00:42:07:37
Stefanie Stershic
Yeah, I also meant it.
00:42:07:42 – 00:42:15:40
Agent Palmer
Well, any of the anything else you want to tell anybody? Did we cover it?
00:42:15:51 – 00:42:22:52
Stefanie Stershic
I think we covered it all. You exist, I exist. We now exist as a as a married couple, man or wife.
00:42:22:57 – 00:42:24:06
Agent Palmer
Yep.
00:42:24:11 – 00:42:25:20
Stefanie Stershic
No going back now?
00:42:25:24 – 00:42:30:36
Agent Palmer
Nope. Now only forward? Yep. All right. Love you.
00:42:30:41 – 00:42:40:19
Stefanie Stershic
I love you.
00:42:40:23 – 00:43:08:47
Agent Palmer
Now, I’m aware that Stefanie, going from podcasting pastime to partner, from hobby to husband and wife, is unique to us. But every relationship is unique. This just happens to be our story. The Zohar states that when a soul is sent down from heaven, it contains both male and female characteristics. The male elements enter the baby boy, the female the baby girl, and if they be worthy, God reunites them in marriage.
00:43:08:52 – 00:43:31:53
Agent Palmer
The thing is, while I am fairly spiritual, though not really a practicing Jew, I can state that there is something amiss with the Zohar. Getting married this past September to Stefanie did not make me feel whole, as the statement would lead me to believe. That’s because to follow our story, I felt whole the moment she moved in, the moment she was close.
00:43:31:58 – 00:43:53:41
Agent Palmer
Marriage made it official for everyone else, but we aren’t joking when we say that. The only thing that changed aside from her name, is that we now wear rings. We’ve always kind of known we were each other’s forever. It’s just that for us, it was when she moved in at the beginning of this episode, more so than when we got married at the end.
00:43:53:45 – 00:44:13:27
Agent Palmer
And yet this is still just the beginning. Thanks for listening to The Palmer Files episode 139. And now for the official business. The Palmer Files releases every two weeks on Tuesdays. If you’re still listening, I encourage you to join the discussion. You can find all related ways to contact my lovely wife, Stefanie and myself in the show. Notes.
00:44:13:32 – 00:44:28:21
Agent Palmer
The music for this episode was provided by Henno Heitur. Email can be sent to this show at The Palmer Files at gmail.com. And remember, you’re home for all things. Agent Palmer is Agent palmer.com.
00:44:28:25 – 00:44:42:16
Unknown
You.
00:44:42:20 – 00:45:00:16
Unknown
See?
00:45:00:21 – 00:45:04:44
Unknown
Me?
00:45:04:49 – 00:45:09:37
Unknown
She’s.
00:45:09:42 – 00:45:11:52
Agent Palmer
All right, honey, do you have one final question for me?
00:45:12:06 – 00:45:19:04
Stefanie Stershic
I do. When we had decided to get married, we’d pick the date.
00:45:19:09 – 00:45:20:00
Agent Palmer
Yep.
00:45:20:04 – 00:45:25:32
Stefanie Stershic
Who was the person that you were most excited to tell? That we were finally getting married?
00:45:25:37 – 00:45:32:13
Agent Palmer
Who? I mean, probably my parents. But I will argue that,
00:45:32:18 – 00:45:41:16
Stefanie Stershic
Let’s say, you know, parents, because we know that the parents would be thrilled no matter what. Who aside from your parents, were you most excited to tell?
00:45:41:21 – 00:45:52:41
Agent Palmer
Well, what we didn’t cover in any of this was that that that relationship that ended when I met you.
00:45:52:52 – 00:45:55:41
Stefanie Stershic
00:45:55:46 – 00:45:58:09
Agent Palmer
That there was a wedding that was called off.
00:45:58:13 – 00:46:01:23
Stefanie Stershic
There. Was there there there had been an engagement. There was a ring.
00:46:01:28 – 00:46:04:42
Agent Palmer
There was a wedding planned. Yeah. Down payments were made.
00:46:04:56 – 00:46:06:23
Stefanie Stershic
00:46:06:28 – 00:46:10:45
Agent Palmer
Specifically, I think Sparta and Chris who were there.
00:46:10:47 – 00:46:16:09
Stefanie Stershic
Yeah.
00:46:16:14 – 00:46:39:40
Agent Palmer
And they understood. But I think they were I, I think telling them because they, I, they might have been more excited than I this is the thing this is the honest answer. I don’t know that you and I were that excited. Like we were happy that we were doing it. Yeah, it’s kind of like this monkey off your back.
00:46:39:40 – 00:46:41:57
Agent Palmer
Well, people can stop asking us now.
00:46:41:59 – 00:46:44:54
Stefanie Stershic
Yeah, but to us, we knew it wasn’t going to be a big difference.
00:46:44:59 – 00:47:05:54
Agent Palmer
It wasn’t going to be a big difference. But I think that, like, specifically, my two best friends were over the moon. Yeah. And I don’t know if I was necessarily really excited to tell them, but I do know that they were very excited to hear it. Yeah. And that kind of.
00:47:05:59 – 00:47:24:59
Agent Palmer
That expands when we talk, when we eventually tell the rest of the podcasting circle from the first episode. Yeah. And like we expand that, that a bit like, there’s still people within that circle that haven’t heard. So if you’re listening to this.
00:47:24:59 – 00:47:28:21
Stefanie Stershic
It’s a welcome.
00:47:28:26 – 00:47:40:50
Agent Palmer
And it was really it’s really just we’ve only we didn’t go public with it. This is as public as we’ve ever gone with it. Yeah, but, I don’t think I changed my Facebook status from.
00:47:40:58 – 00:47:41:11
Stefanie Stershic
I haven’t.
00:47:41:17 – 00:47:46:04
Agent Palmer
Whatever it was, I don’t even know what it is. I’m single. I’m guessing. I don’t know if I ever.
00:47:46:09 – 00:47:50:47
Stefanie Stershic
I called my family in Arizona, and I, like, I called my grandmother and was like, hey, I got married.
00:47:50:55 – 00:47:55:00
Agent Palmer
Like, I don’t even know if I changed my relationship status to in a relationship with you.
00:47:55:05 – 00:47:57:41
Stefanie Stershic
I did that. I do remember doing doing all right.
00:47:57:41 – 00:48:07:37
Agent Palmer
So that’s done. So, at least Facebook thinks I’m in a relationship with the right person. And then, no, I mean.
00:48:07:42 – 00:48:11:53
Stefanie Stershic
Well, because we basically we’ve given up on social media, especially Facebook. Yeah. I don’t know if I need to bother.
00:48:11:53 – 00:48:14:50
Agent Palmer
But we’ve only told people we talked to and I.
00:48:14:54 – 00:48:15:56
Stefanie Stershic
A regular basis, you know.
00:48:15:56 – 00:48:29:27
Agent Palmer
So we we don’t there’s a lot of people we talk to you semi-regularly or annually that we just haven’t gotten there yet. Yeah. And we’re we’re probably getting to the season when we do talk to them.
00:48:29:27 – 00:48:30:05
Stefanie Stershic
00:48:31:53 – 00:48:37:47
Agent Palmer
And if not I’m sure it’ll be mentioned in the card. The holiday card will send out.
00:48:37:47 – 00:48:44:38
Stefanie Stershic
Yeah. And by the way we got married. Yeah. So I guess the card will be coming from the statistics.
00:48:44:42 – 00:49:00:36
Agent Palmer
I don’t know that I was like. I this is going to be the least romantic thing I’m going to say to. I think everybody else is more excited than I was. And again, it’s.
00:49:00:41 – 00:49:15:33
Stefanie Stershic
It doesn’t bother me because it just it makes sense, like everyone was so happy because we’ve joked about it before, but we we always keep saying that I arrived and everyone likes me more than you. Well, sure, your friends liked me more. Your parents love me.
00:49:15:33 – 00:49:16:55
Agent Palmer
Family. I mean, that’s the other.
00:49:16:55 – 00:49:24:00
Stefanie Stershic
I also joked that if anything were to happen, like if we were, if we decided to split up because like, your parents will keep me.
00:49:24:05 – 00:49:25:26
Agent Palmer
Well, and don’t forget, you are their son.
00:49:25:26 – 00:49:26:20
Stefanie Stershic
But they will keep me.
00:49:26:29 – 00:49:31:08
Agent Palmer
And and and and and we haven’t talked about this at all, so let’s talk about this now.
00:49:31:08 – 00:49:36:41
Stefanie Stershic
00:49:36:46 – 00:50:01:35
Agent Palmer
We talked about when my dad announced that he said finally, but Chris Zapata, my parents, my Uncle Matt, my Uncle Steven, my uncle Mark, probably a few other people I’m forgetting all.
00:50:01:37 – 00:50:03:09
Stefanie Stershic
Your Aunt Enid.
00:50:03:14 – 00:50:10:28
Agent Palmer
No. And Enid didn’t do it. Oh, she’s one of the. She’s the only nice one. Okay, but all of those people.
00:50:10:32 – 00:50:11:25
Stefanie Stershic
I don’t know, we were getting to.
00:50:11:25 – 00:50:16:51
Agent Palmer
So I had a reaction. A question for you specifically.
00:50:16:55 – 00:50:18:24
Stefanie Stershic
Yeah, I know, I know what you’re getting.
00:50:18:29 – 00:50:20:12
Agent Palmer
What was the question?
00:50:20:17 – 00:50:30:09
Stefanie Stershic
Are you sure? Him. Are you sure? Blink if you need help.
00:50:30:14 – 00:50:32:58
Agent Palmer
Yeah. Well, are you sure?
00:50:33:03 – 00:50:42:16
Stefanie Stershic
I said, I said I do. I did okay, we did the thing I I’m sure. Okay. I’m ready to spend the rest of my life with you.
00:50:42:20 – 00:50:48:31
Agent Palmer
All right. Well, it started back in September. Welcome to the rest of your life.
00:50:48:36 – 00:50:50:19
Stefanie Stershic
Thank you for having me. It’s great to be here.
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